The Dating "Nazi"
Okay, so one of my dearest friends was wondering why I refer to her as a dating Nazi. I realized when she commented on the term that it is, indeed a misnomer. When I refer to a "dating Nazi" I am affectionately referring to those among us who realize that our culture's view of love, marriage, and dating, is, in fact, flawed to say the least. I won't go on with that, it'd be much too long and i have class in half an hour... so, the term "dating Nazi" is used by those who do not quite understand our pessimistic, no, realistic views on dating and relationships. I propose a new name, though, we dating antagonsits do somewhat resent the "nazi" part of it...we're definetly not that bad! So, perhaps "dating nemesis"? Any suggestions?
posted by Carmen @ 8:22 AM
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As Jill, you are confident, respectful, and a little bit bossy! You have an acquired taste for adventure, and love any challenge that you have to face.
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You're correct. This term really distresses me. Would that God would use us, however, to be a godly example to others. To pursue his blessing of marriage in a way that glorifies him, rather than merely satisfying our own carnal desires. Let us pursue friendships with other godly men and women. And when we discover that one of those friends is somehow special, let us engage in a relationship of purpose with the goal of a God-centered union in mind. May our love for our future mates be selfless and pure, like the Bride (the church) loves her Christ.
Through this post you imply that dating is something about which to be pessimistic. Why the bleak outlook? If it's gotten SO bad, then it can only get better, right? Which means we should be optimistic.
If, however, the church's view on dating is leading to a moral decline, or downward spiral that is only getting worse, then we should be part of the body and go down with the ship, bailing the water out one cup at a time (by which I mean praying and interceding out of compassion for the church, even to the point of tears),rather than jumping ship altogether, and when it hits rock bottom, we can begin to invest into the rebuilding.
We have to be careful not to abandon those who are blinded by their flesh while shaking our heads in pessimism.
To Jonathan..
please do forgive my cynicism. I have had my own experiences with dating, and now that I look back, I realize that I was simply falling for what my family, culture, and church expected of me. Now I am relishing in my freedom from those stereotypes. That is what contributes to my view, which you see as pessimistic. i apologise for this as well, i do not mean to say that I am jumping ship, as you so metaphorically put it. Forgive me if that is what it seems.I am, however, simply trying to do my part to show others that they do not have to follow the common customs. We really don't have to date. Who says we have to get married, anyway...pardon my soapbox. Yes, I do agree with you, it will take prayer, in addition to the few of us who stand up and defy the norm. May we only do it to the glory of God, not out of our own pride. This is where I am prone to fall!
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